Stress Management

I continued our Living Room message series this past Sunday, talking about stress management from a biblical point of view. I got a lot of positive feedback from folks about how helpful the material was, so I thought I’d share the highlights in my weekly blog.

GOD created us to deal with stress. Deep within our hardwiring, we have the “fight or flight” mechanism, which helps prepare us to deal with a stressful stimulus. Within our hardwiring, we have tendencies that drive our natural reaction as well, to either fight or flee. Sometimes we can experience stress when we realize that we need to respond in a way that is contrary to our natural tendencies. For example, if you naturally want to take on a challenge, sometimes it is better to take a step back, assess, and evaluate the situation. On the other hand, if like me, you tend to want to want to withdraw, then perhaps you face a situation where you need to engage a challenge.

Since we all are going to face stress in our life – and not all stress is negative – problems can arise when we begin to project stress into a situation where it might not warrant it. Projecting stress is something that we all do when we try to discern if we are going to need to fight or flee. When we aim to project ourselves into a situation, we are not able to see all of the scenarios, so our minds fill in the blanks with the worst case scenario. As this happens, a cycle of stress is born where we are not only anticipating something stressful, but we are typically stressing over things that might not even happen. This projection of stress creates worry and anxiety.

The words ‘worry’ and ‘anxiety’ carry some unique significance in this concept of living room in the abundant life Jesus came to give (John 10.10). I have said in the past two messages that when life happens, it restricts and constricts our inner world. This is stress. This is worry and anxiety. The etymology of the word ‘worry’ in our Anglo Saxon language means, to choke. And ‘worry’ in the biblical languages means to divide one’s mind. So when we are worrying and experiencing anxiety, our minds are divided and spirits choked. This prevents us from being able to maintain perspective. The cycle continues.

Regarding worry and anxiety, a study revealed the way that we often worry. Check out these statistics:

• 40% of what we worry about never happens 
• 30% of what we worry about has already happened and cannot be changed 
• 22% of what we worry about regards problems which are beyond our control 
• 8% of what we worry about are situations over which we have any influence

Do you find this to be true? I know I do! A simple rule of thumb to remember is the 90/10 rule: life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond.

Since we are all going to experience stress, and we are all going to respond in one way or another, then reason stands that our response to stress is really what makes the difference. When we can learn to respond in a way that is consistent with GOD’s plan of abundant living for us, then we will truly be able to manage stress so it does not manage us. Check out this passage from The Message version of Philippians 4.6-9: Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life. Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.” 

As you pray to GOD for assistance in your stressful circumstances, know that Jesus indeed wants to come in and displace worry at the center of your life. Carrying your concerns to GOD and then focusing on His character attributes that are directly opposite to your stressors, worries, and anxiety is a perfect way to experience the relief from a divided and choked off mind. This is also essential in keeping the proper perspective when it comes to dealing with the things in life you can control (8%) versus the things you cannot (92%).

The Serenity Prayer

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

The courage to change the things I can,

And wisdom to know the difference.

(Reinhold Niebuhr, 1943)